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Love and Relationships: When You Feel Lost and Hopeless

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Life is a mystery. No one really can define what a perfect life is. While some will look into accumulating wealth, others opt for gaining as much knowledge as possible. At the end of the day, whatever you choose, if you follow it to the heart, then you will be sure to die fulfilled. However, one thing that stands out in all life’s expectations is happiness. Nobody wants to be sad; we all crave for happy lives. While it might seem like an easy thing to achieve, most people actually struggle to be happy. Why? You may ask. Sometimes, we focus too much on less important things and forego the most important. Years later, we realize the mistakes we did and sadness creeps in. Take for example a father who works so many hours to provide for his family and also save some few bucks. He misses important events like when the kids are achieving their major milestones in life and the wife will feel neglected. This may make the relationship between him and his family to worsen. But does that mean he is a bad father/ husband? No evidently. All he wanted was to make their lives a little bit better. Life requires one to have a balance.

Love and Relationships

Who doesn’t want to be loved? Even the coldest (as some people appear) of people need to be loved. But then again, not everybody has it simple in this sector either. Forget the love of a sibling, parents or friends. There is the most widely known kind of life. The one we all crave for. This is where girl meets boy. Boy loves girl (with the help of the girl’s manipulation of course). Girl reciprocates the love and a beautiful thing starts between them.

Love and Relationships

However, it is not always as easy as it sounds. Some people have a hard time connecting with others. Some are shy; others have self esteem issues and so on. If you are a man and can’t hold a constructive conversation with a lady for more than five minutes, then there is a problem. You may escape the situation when you are young but you are bound to face similar circumstances at a certain point in life. Pick up lines won’t help much (okay they might help in the beginning) and the sooner you get out of you cocoon the better. On the other hand, there are women who can catch the attention of a man so easily but after that, they don’t know how to keep a man. They get into so many relationships that don’t work out at the end. Such people, you will find, are prone to feeling lost and hopeless about love and relationships.

But does finding love have to be this hard? Is it really that hopeless for you? One of the few things you need to keep in mind is that nothing in this life is permanent, well except you height after thirty. Anyway, strive to change those things that make it hard for you to interact with people. If the situation can’t be changed, change the way you view it. Below are tips to help you build better relationships and enjoy your love life.

Build Better Relationships

1. There is always someone for everyone

Not even once should you entertain the thought that you were born to be alone. Sooner or later you will meet someone who will make you realize why it never worked with all others. Life happens at the pace of life and that’s why while others meet this special one early on in life, others take time. In the meantime, build your empire, become a better you every day and above all be optimistic.

2. Happiness is Beyond Falling In Love

Most people tend to equate happiness in their lives to the love people show them. But don’t be deceived. Happiness is more than that. It requires you to show love in return, have a fulfilling live, believe in something positive, interact with people, learn something new etc. Happiness comes from within not another person. That why you see so many people in marriages, relationships that aren’t happy.

3. Learn To Take Risks

Learn To Take Risks

Life in itself is a risk. Every second that passes, you risk dying and leaving everything else behind. Never wait for the right time as it will never come. Do whatever it is that you want to do and see what happens. If you love someone, tell them. You never know, they might be feeling the same way too. Stop waiting for life to happen and live in every moment. Live everyday like it’s your last. After all, someday it will be.

Conclusion

Everyone has a soul mate. You may not find them today but someday you will. Do not despair. It’s important to talk with a close friend about your relationship issues or seek guidance from a counselor. Keeping it to yourself can be detrimental in your life.

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